I knew they loved me and admired me in some way, and I didn’t want to disappoint them.. Others form group and they share their laughs and make trips. Intuition and faith guides the connection through its ebbs and flows.
But overall I seemed sociable and I thought I’m doing great talking with strangers (even-though I would get nervous about impressing them). There is nothing wrong with feeling sad, grumpy, miserable, angry. I used to be a very outgoing and happy person and I started meeting people who secretly hated how outgoing I was or just seemed jealous of me overall and they ripped me apart. Guess what. Unfortunately, many couples decide at this point that they have really "grown apart" and that a change of spouse is in order.
We do grow and change as people, and sometimes we do have to let go of friendships. We connect families with caregivers and caring companies to help you be there for the ones you love.
If she falls asleep in front of the TV in the evening rather than going clubbing with you, can you blame her?As a long time single person in my early 50's, I have learned to temper my expectation of others, based on the prevailing social norms. If you are honest with yourself, are any of these things you secretly judge yourself on in your head? You have a deep personality. Years of meeting people who looked down on me for being positive and outgoing has me thinking that I can’t be that way anymore. It’s how you relate with the person. But I just feel we were on different levels, after seeing a therapist for depression/anxiety symptoms I have been growing in ways I think are great and no longer really need to see her often.
What matters here is that you are unhappy, and you are longing for change.
I would also like friends to hangout with desperately. If you don’t like your friends and family knowing you are struggling ,then call a counsellor or therapist. There is a natural joy of “getting” another person and being “gotten” by another person in turn – it cannot be manufactured or orchestrated in any way, because the two friends were born from the same pot.
Except for a few subjects, there are no prerequisites to study together. With other friends, however, the …
And you are right, it’s not the best way to cope, even as it does work in a temporary measure. I've never understood why it's socially acceptable - and even expected - for friends to pretty much go by the wayside once you get to a certain stage of life.
Thanks.Hi Pham, we don’t speak the language you left your comment in so used google translate. Please I need help.Hi Mariah, sounds like you are feeling overwhelmed and your coping mechanism is to hide. I was feeling good about myself and had a good self-esteem, but when I had to meet with friends that I haven’t seen for a while, I would get nervous. Great conversations allow both parties open dialogue, exchange of ideas, and respect when the other expresses different opinion.When you have mindful and better conversations with someone, you build trust that lasts for years to come.Choose to form connections with people who will make you happy.I try to have deep meaningful conversations with my spouse but we rarely do because the focus get switched to them. Only when it is necessary is something important e ms say b. So I don’t know where to start with changing it.
The other possibility is that you are not comfortable being vulnerable with people. But inviting people over isn’t an issue for me.